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That introverts do not like surprises is an understatement. The truth is that we hate surprises. And by "surprises" here I refer mainly to those which involve an invasion of people into our personal space and time. (Emails are fine as they do not interrupt -- We can read them whenever it's convenient for us.)
I should probably just speak for myself here, as of course all introverts are not alike. But I do think we all feel this way to one degree or another and many of us, including myself, really do not like surprises at all.
In fact surprises are anathema to us unless they are of the innocent variety, i.e., of the type that don't have anything to do with invasion of our time and space...Some of the "innocent" type can in fact be very pleasant and refreshing.
As introverts are primarily inward-directed, it should be obvious that we like to be alone with our thoughts a lot of the time...our thoughts, our books, maybe music at times or the sound of water bubbling or birds chirping, and/or other things that aid us in contemplation and study of what's on our minds...or in doing what it is we are doing -- working on our projects whatever they might be.
There is an exception, and that is that we may be completely comfortable being around those who are an integral part of our daily lives if we are completely understanding of and respect each other's needs, but others are different.
It's not that we don't like other people (I will write a post -- or two or three -- about this in the future.) It's that we don't want to be interrupted or distracted and we don't like our space, including physical space, violated. These things to us are sacred and we treasure them and protect them.
When there is real need of a get-together of any kind, we want to thoroughly plan what needs to be accomplished, what we intend to do, and - if we have any choice - what's the best place and time block for it. Mostly our time is well-planned (or we wish it were and get very frustrated if we aren't able to plan it ahead) and it's hard to fit in anything out of the ordinary, especially if it doesn't seem to be helpful in some way (and "helpful" might well include something of a relaxing or enjoyable nature, though our ideas about what is "relaxing" and/or "enjoyable" may not coincide with those of others...and we still need to schedule these things ourselves). - Jean
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